The Problems With Face Washing

July 20, 2009

in Random Grumbles

I love makeup. Specifically, MAC makeup… that finely milled stuff is absolutely necessary in my life. It helps me look alive! and fresh! which is a miracle in and of itself when one considers how little sleep I get. I won’t even fetch the newspaper from the front porch without filling in my eyebrows first.

I was out on the street once, in front of my house, chatting with a couple of neighbour ladies about something that required immediate attention… I forget what it was now, but it was early enough in the morning that I had no makeup on, and was trying not to feel self-conscious about it… anyway, one of my neighbour ladies was staring at me pretty hard, and then finally came out with, “Are you okay? You look different… are you sick or something?” That was about seven years ago. I never, ever leave the house without at least a smidge of makeup on now. I don’t care what’s on fire.

Paula's Choice ProductThe problem isn’t putting on the makeup – I actually like the subtle transformation, from natural face to “refreshed” with pretty powders and black eyeliner. I’ve been doing it for so many years, I could almost apply it in my sleep. It takes less than two minutes to make myself “presentable.” I love this. What I hate is taking it off at night.

By the time the the evening has rolled around, and the dishwasher has been loaded, counters wiped down, the last of the laundry folded, the endless array of books and plastic kiddie toys have been chucked into the armoire, the last thing I feel like doing is washing my face. I can’t be bothered. I’m too tired.

In the morning, I swear to god, I look like a baby.

I try to tell myself it doesn’t take that long, and that it’s better for my skin, and that this short act will preserve the life of my blessed white sheets and pillowcases, but rather than choosing soaps and lotions, I reach under the bathroom sink for my makeup removal wipes, ‘coz I’m all lazy like that.

After having kids in the house for these past several years, I’ve become accustomed to using baby wipes for a myriad of applications. Of course they’re good for wiping off poopy bums and sticky hands, but they can also be used to wipe runny noses, dimpled, dirty faces, counter tops and floors tacky from spilled apple juice, they dust shoes pretty well too, and I think I saw my husband wash the car with some once… So while in the appropriate aisle in the pharmacy one day, I spied the facial wipes section, and chose the generic house brand, vowing that I would only use them for travel, or in a serious pinch. Naturally, I use them every day now.

I wish I could keep them in a chaffing dish or warmer-contraption though. They’re chilly on the face, late at night – more befitting of a morning slap in the face than of a soothing nighttime regime, but I’m determined to save the sheets. And I know all that makeup can’t be good for my poor, widening pores either. Still, I figure if I’m ruining my skin, I can save myself with MORE MAKEUP.

They smell okay – clean, fresh scent (meaning they do not smell like ass) and they claim to have toner in them too. I feel clean enough for bed, and I don’t get that dry, constricted feeling I usually get after washing my face if I don’t use a lotion. Wonderful.

My husband on the other hand, has more facial product than any man should ever have. It’s crazy.

When I do wash my face “properly” I’m about as simple as a person can get about it. Dove soap quickly lathered on my face, (sometimes twice) followed by Nivea Q10 Advance Wrinkle Reducer face cream. I have pretty abusable normal skin, and I’ve been using Dove soap since birth, as it has never failed me. I started using the Nivea lotion several years ago – it’s light on my face and doesn’t feel greasy, which doesn’t mess with my makeup application. It’s completely affordable, and I can find it in any drugstore. For me, it is the perfect stuff.

If I really need extra care, I use some run-of-the-mill apricot facial scrub, and then slather on a fantastic facial mask called Drink Up by Origins – my sister turned me onto it about a year ago, and I completely love it. You’re supposed to leave it on for about ten minutes, but I’ve been known to walk around with it on for hours. Sometimes I just wipe it off with a Kleenex and go to bed. In the morning, I swear to god, I look like a baby.

My husband on the other hand, has more facial product than any man should ever have. It’s crazy. (That’s all his stuff, pictured above.) He orders his stuff from an online company called Paula’s Choice, and has been loving the stuff for years now. He has sensitive skin, so he’s far more girly careful about his regime than I am. He has a bunch of regular face cleansers for everyday care, and lotion for immediate application – standard stuff. But he also has about eighteen other mystery products like skin balancing toner, moisture gels, blemish fighting solutions, under-eye gels, mud masks, clay masks, skin balancing daily mattifying lotion, super antioxidant mattifying concentrate, beta hydroxy acid gels (in one AND two per cent strengths), cell-communicating something or other, and the list goes on.

I encourage him to use whatever he likes to make himself beautiful, but I had to draw the line at the hairband he used to use while masking. Fey does not describe the scene I used to endure when he applied his goop in the evenings. I can actually watch him wander about the house without giggling now. The children don’t even look at daddy sideways when his face is green. He looks like The Incredible Hulk, only more gorgeous, and with fewer muscles. And no hairband.

I’m not joking when I tell you that it resembles a shop under our bathroom sink. I can’t be bothered to try all his crap – too much invested time for me. He loves washing his face. I believe he lives for it. He washes his face the moment he arrives home from work, and then again before retiring for the night, often with a face mask in between. He makes me tired just watching him… so tired in fact, that I just reach for my box of wipes, toss the dirty thing in the trash, and go directly to bed.

Fresh magic-making makeup awaits on the morning.

Gotta love being a girl.

G.G.

The winner of my first giveaway is… “jillmyrick”!
Thanks again everyone for your comments and insights. It’s been a very interesting discussion. Feel free to contact me with feedback or ideas!
grumblegirl [at] grumblegirl [dot] com

jillmyrick, I’ll be in touch tomorrow to arrange the order from Paula’s Choice!

  • Your Husband

    I actually draw the line at under-eye serum – my program already has twelve steps, thank you very much… And a hair band? The year would have been 1993.

    Everything else is true. Paula's Choice is a godsend. A highly effective line of specialty products at an unbeatable price point. Do you know how difficult it is to find alpha- and beta-hydroxy concentrates, and ph-balanced no less? The apricot grit you scrape your face with is no match!

    Check it out: http://www.paulaschoice.com

  • Grumble Girl

    You're just jealous because I'm smoother than your spawn we call the children. As for the hairband, I believe that was discarded in the early oh-ohs… but think what you want, woman. I prefer to spend my time sleeping.

  • http://www.dionetaylor.com/ Dione Taylor

    You should really consider switching to mineral based make up girl. It's WAY better for your skin, it lasts longer, you don't need to touch up and it's WAY easier to remove! There's a new line by Dan Thompson that is AMAZING! I've been using it for the last 4 months and I'm in love with it. I still use Mac for their eyeshadows/blush but as far as my base is concerned it's Dan Thompson all the way!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I don't know the line!? Where is it sold? I'll check it out because you said to… pretty girl.

  • Debbie W

    This stuff is new to me as well. I'm curious.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=903495602 facebook-903495602

    Daniel Thompson is his proper name (http://www.danielthompsonbeauty.com)
    He has a web site that you can order from but his line is sold in Toronto at Rosemarie Umetsu's boutique. Not sure if he's available in Montreal yet but you can certainly check the web site.

    I mean it ladies…I'm a singer so I'm on stage a lot and I wear make up all the time. I loved MAC for many years but found that it was always sweating it off and having to re-apply with my compact. Now, I use one mineral/bronzer compact and it lasts ALL DAY/NIGHT!! Of course you can always re-apply but it's not necessary because it's mineral based which is much better for your skin. :)

  • Grumble Girl

    I will definitely check it out… I loves me some makeup. But what do you WASH with, my dear lady?

  • patsteer

    Wash with Cetaphil, it takes off eye-makeup completely, yet is gentle enough for sensitive skin. Drugstore. You should go!

  • cc

    One step wipe sounds ideal with the busy lives we all live ;less time in the bathroom!

  • http://www.dionetaylor.com/ Dione Taylor

    Actually, I've been washing with Cetaphil for years now!! LOL

  • ky2here

    Well I'm a guy so I'm interested in the products your husband uses and that's the reason I'm here today.

  • traymona

    My daughter once had a boyfriend that sounds exactly like your husband. He used to say he was showing his feminine side.

  • sandy

    have not heard of the line before either..my husband is just now getting a routine going

  • Grumble Girl

    Did that guy turn out to be gay? Tee-hee…

  • Grumble Girl

    Routines are good for me, I think.

  • Grumble Girl

    He SWEARS by the stuff! He has nice skin too… really.

  • Grumble Girl

    The less time, the better. I soooooo can't be bothered at night…

  • llinda29

    I will try this product soon

  • Linda Fish

    I usually do face wipes because of tiredness, sometimes do a step by step thing but not too often

  • Gertrude23

    Yep, I'm also too tired to wash face in the PM. Know I should; wish I could; face like wood!

  • casperinbc

    I also have been using Cetaphil for years and it is great I have not heard of this line and would be very curious to try it.

  • angelaj

    I like trying new stuff and can use all the help I can get at my age.

  • HeatherM0529

    Mineral Makeup is the best. I use BareMinerals and It's amazing. It covers up my acne and freckles very well!

  • fernandoi

    Very entertaining. Love the insight.

  • Valerie

    Thats so funny about your husband, haha
    three step cleanse

  • Lauri winter

    Wonderful input! Loving Grumble Girl!

  • Courtney

    I usually just use Dove. I've never heard of this but I love trying out new products.

  • charlottewinters

    I love to try new products. Hope I win. 7/25 is my 46th bday.

  • Cat

    EW I HATE WASHING MY FACE

  • ef4ervescent

    Like your husband, if I have a myriad of products in the bathroom but I'm beginning to wonder if they really make a difference…sigh.

  • Elaine R

    I use a makeup remover cloth on my eyes then a fresh cloth on my face-no long routine,too tired at bedtime!

  • Evguenia

    I love washing my face with different cleansers. Could never find a matching cream for my skin, they all seem to oily. Would love to try Paula's products since I've read her stuff.

  • Linda Chaput

    I'v been a Cetaphil user for years.I love their products.I'v never heard of this line of products called Paula's Choice.It would be fun to try a new facial product.

  • Yolanda R

    I love trying new facial products. Sounds really interesting.

  • courtneys

    i really like to take off my makeup with vaseline. I find it makes my eyelashes look longer:)

    vanitizebaby@yahoo.com

  • Grumble Girl

    You have eyelashes? That is soooo rad… I wish I had some.

  • Grumble Girl

    Yes. Ew. Ick. Nast.

  • Grumble Girl

    Dove = Good, I think.

  • Grumble Girl

    I'm thrilled… thanks!!

  • annet

    lol I think we may be related

    I enjoy a cold slap in the face at bedtime, we call that foreplay ahaha (I kid)

    I do have extraordinarily sensitive skin though and would love to try these products!

    Thanks

    ps. I subscribed via Google Reader!

  • Theresa

    My husband always steals my good products! It drives me batty, but he does have lovely skin. :)

  • cstironkat

    I would love a chance to try this. My aging skin needs all the help I can get.

  • http://backyardmama.blogspot.com/ oona baker

    The last time I got a facial, the woman suggested Paula's Choice for my sensitive skin, I would totally love to try it!

    Thanks! foxsquirrelrabbit at gmail dot com

  • di52

    I knew it! I knew I couldn't be the only person too tired to wash my face at night, gotta love those wipes. I'd like to try Paula's Choice and the Paula's Original Beauty Bible sounds like fun.

  • Sharon Harmon

    My skin would LOVE to be spoiled by Paula's Choice!

  • Grumble Girl

    Happy Birthday, Charlotte! Wishing you clear, beautiful, trouble-free skin for the rest of your life!! (And thanks for commenting…)

  • jankoontz

    just to cool, thank you

  • Grumble Girl

    Product-stealing husbands should be spanked.

  • Grumble Girl

    That is FUNNY! Maybe we ARE related… you could be that third sister we tried to bury under the
    building… how did you escape?! (I kid.)

    Thanks so much for commenting AND subscribing… glad you're enjoying the site!

  • Grumble Girl

    I think there are MILLIONS of us… man, I hate washing my face. Thank goodness for the wipes!

    Thanks for commenting!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I wonder where we can get home-Botox?

  • Grumble Girl

    I've never had a facial… I'm a bit afraid of the process… is that so stupid?

  • Grumble Girl

    I'm all about the wipes, myself… but my man swears by the stuff. You should totally check out their stuff online. We'll see how the contest ends! Thanks so much for commenting!!

  • Grumble Girl

    It's our first contest… fun! We'll see what happens!!

  • Grumble Girl

    Who has time for that kind of thing at night?

  • Grumble Girl

    Good rhyming, girl…

  • Grumble Girl

    He's so gay, my husband, it's tragic.

  • Grumble Girl

    I'm so very pleased that you're enjoying it!

  • Grumble Girl

    This man is taking up too much room in my bathroom…

  • joannieME

    I've never had a facial and I've never used mineral make-up. My friends can't believe that I'm so uneducated re make-up and skin care. Maybe Paula's Choice is what this hopeless girl needs!!

  • debbie78

    Would love to win. Please enter me, thank you

  • reneetaylor

    I live the one step wipes, too tired at night to do anything else.

  • Grumble Girl

    Maybe!!

  • Grumble Girl

    You're on, sistah!

  • Grumble Girl

    I really wonder what kind of wonder woman DOES have time?!

  • Michelle

    Right now I'm using some cleansing gel by Garnier which works fairly well considering I have very sensitive skin – I get a reaction using most products.

  • jillmyrick

    When my children were younger I always used the facial wipes for removing my makeup as I had very little me time.
    My youngest is now engaged and got her own place three months ago. So now I have lots and lots of me time. I have yet to find anything that I truly love though as a routine.

  • ashley

    im definitely for the 3 step system… i want to do everything i can for my skin.. i guess because i'm scared of getting old

  • dglitter

    This stuff sounds amazing-please enter me to win. Thanks!

  • tmf315

    I have the same issues with washing my makeup off at night. I always do it, although not very well depending on my mood and how late it is or how tired I am.

  • Jessica

    I've never tried Paula's Choice but it sounds great! I feel the same way about being able to compensate for neglecting my skincare routine by adding more makeup, though lately I've been better about at least washing off my makeup before I go to bed

  • Megan B.

    I have a problem with sensitive skin, so if I wash my face too much it just feels like I'm stripping it of the oils it needs to be healthy, if that makes sense. It can often backfire. A lot of moisturizers also really can irritate my skin when my skin is freshly washed.

  • ahone1972

    I'm right there with you girl! I hate washing my face at night and have succumbed to using Ponds facial towelettes in my laziness……..I envy your husband having the time and energy to take such good care of his face….my husbands idea of taking care of his skin is bodywash in the shower and shaving, that's it. Feel lucky that he cares about his skin.

  • whinr

    I love Paula's choice but I wish that there was a Canadian outlet. I would probably order more of the products then. Until then I continue to use my favourites: Oil of Olay for sensitive skin and Neutrogena foaming facial cleanser. The more basic the routine the better it is.

  • vboackle

    i go for simplicity.

  • beth shepherd

    I am too tired most of the time at night to wash my face but need to. So I usually have to make up for it the next day. My husbands idea of washing his face is when he takes a shower and thats it. Lucky him that he has great skin. I used to but it seems after the kids were born that my skin has gone downhill along with my patience level :)
    Thank you for the chance
    tatertot374@sbcglobal.net

  • kayte71

    You have forgotten the worst aspect of a beauty product lovin' man- he steals your products! God forbid if handsome face has a zit.And he doesn't just dab, he uses 3/4 of the bottle of $22 cream. AND–he whines if you try to pass the cheap stuff off as “special” stuff you bought for him.
    kaytewatts AT aol DOT com

  • wwe11

    I never heard of a man's blemish wash, cool though.

  • Gabriel J.

    Great products that I need bad :(

  • http://twitter.com/ktanjatk ktanjatk

    Ha ha, thanks for the laugh!

  • willhauck

    well…

  • rachelnewman

    One Step Wipe – is it the best for my face? Probably not, but I'm lazy.

  • sandies

    I am just starting to be concerned and care for my skin needs, and I would welcome an opportunity to try any new product to start me in the right direction.

  • Grumble Girl

    Does it work well for you?

  • Grumble Girl

    I think if I had all the time in the world, I would STILL hate washing my face at night!

  • Grumble Girl

    No! don't be scared of it… getting older is AWESOME! I can't wait to be 50!!

  • Grumble Girl

    You're on…

  • Grumble Girl

    Oh, I know!

  • Grumble Girl

    You're a good woman, Jessica. Your skin will love you forever.

  • Grumble Girl

    Oy! The dilemma!! My husband has the same problem, which I think he corrects with toner.

  • Grumble Girl

    I do! And he really does have lovely skin…

  • Grumble Girl

    I'm all for basic. Martin orders online and gets a bunch of stuff each time – sometimes the shipping is free with a certain dollar amount purchase. He loves getting his BIG BOX of MAKEUP in the mail…

  • Grumble Girl

    I wish I could just get a new face every day…

  • Grumble Girl

    You are welcome! I know what you mean about the decline in the patience and the skin care… damn kids!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I hates me a fussy man… lord.

  • Grumble Girl

    I think it's for all people – male of female. At least, that's what my husband claims…

  • Grumble Girl

    Glad to make you laugh! I'll take laughing over washing my face any day!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I am uber-lazy. Ain't no one lazier than me, my friend.

  • Grumble Girl

    Good luck to you! We'll see what happens…

  • Grumble Girl

    Well, indeed!

  • Grumble Girl

    Chin up, babe! Good luck to you…

  • Grumble Girl

    We'll see how this thing goes!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I've never tried Cetaphil – my mum and some others say it's great. I like the wipes. No fuss – no muss. Good luck!!

  • Grumble Girl

    Well, you're entered! Contest closes Wednesday at 5 PM…

  • Grumble Girl

    Why would you want to cover your freckles, cutie?

  • Grumble Girl

    We all need help, at ANY age!!

  • Grumble Girl

    You're entered for a chance, doll!

  • Grumble Girl

    Oh, I know…

  • Grumble Girl

    Would love to know what you think! (And you have a chance at winning the gift-pack…)

  • HeatherM0529

    Sometimes when we leave the house and dress up it's nice to get them covered up!! THANKS

  • Grumble Girl

    Well, they're your (no doubt adorable) freckles, so enjoy yourself… but I'll bet they're tres cute!!

  • sharonjo

    Very interesting discussion! I learned a lot! I use wet wipes (baby wipes) to remove my makeup! Thanks! senekers@comcast.net

  • smc380

    Would love to give this product a try specially if it makes my skin look like a baby's.

  • gloria

    I would love to try this product! I can use something for my old skin!

  • susansmoaks

    I haven't really developed a routine yet. I have very good skin and I'm still young, but I'm pushing 30 so it's time to get started. I would love to try this system out.

  • luckylucianie

    I would love to try Paula's choice since I've heard nothing but raves about it.

  • Michelle H.

    I like using a system, but when I am really tired, I would reach for a wipe. I am seriously into skincare and want to do what is best for my skin.

  • nesta67

    Now that I have passed 40 I'm trying harder to take care of my skin!

  • gtpgirl19

    I wash with johnsons baby shampoo it works for the eyes :) and it doesnt burn

  • electricisland

    I need to wash my fce more often and know that but its often hard to find the time.

  • jengersch

    i have been using soap. Thsi sounds better

  • garrettsambo

    I too am pressed for time. I usually wash my face wth water or use a wipe. These products sound great. garrettsambo@aol.com

  • jmahurin40

    dove and ivory

  • Susan Smith

    I love trying to facial products and now that I'm in my 40's I'm always looking for products that help my skin look younger

  • Grumble Girl

    Actually, it's the “Drink Up” face mask by Origins that makes Me look like a baby, but my husband loves the Paula's Choice stuff…

  • Grumble Girl

    Really?! Wow!

  • Grumble Girl

    Oh, I know…

  • Grumble Girl

    Niiiice!

  • Grumble Girl

    I think drinking baby's blood might be the only way… just kidding!

  • Grumble Girl

    Well, we all gotta use something! Good luck!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I think it just might be… my husband seems happy with the stuff.

  • Grumble Girl

    That's a good idea. I'm trying to use my flux-capacitor to make more time, but it's on the fritz…

  • Grumble Girl

    Routines are good… good luck!!

  • Grumble Girl

    I have good skin too, and pushing 40… I should stop abusing it so much, but I'm just so bloody tired. And I just HATE washing my face!

  • Grumble Girl

    You're entered to win! Good luck!!

  • Grumble Girl

    Well, good luck to you!!

  • Grumble Girl

    Do the baby wipes bother your skin? I guess they don't bother a baby's skin… good to know! Good luck…

  • Ashley

    I LOOOVE this product

  • Laura

    I go the three step cleanse route but then I have skin issues and must or there's serious probs.

  • Maja

    i could really use it. i only wash with water and a facial scrub.

  • joannaonthelake

    What an entertaining article! I enjoyed reading about your life and your thoughts about taking care of your skin! I can so relate to your no frills skin care routine and the ease of just using cleansing wipes, but lately I have crossed that imaginary line into being more like your husband, and being a little obsessed with keeping my skin really clean and hydrated using all kinds of lotions, masks, exfoliators, toners, etc….. My husband has jumped on the wagon too and is using my skin care products so between the 2 of us, what a pair we make in front of the bathroom mirror! I used to just do the bare minimum in keeping my skin looking great, but as I am quickly approaching my 30's I can see the signs of aging starting to rear their ugly lines on my face, a result of my basking in the sun all those years as a teenager and young adult. So, I have become fanatic about trying to decrease the visible lines and wrinkles, and preventing any more from appearing, and on the hunt for that never to be found fountain of youth! I would love a chance to try out a brand new skin care line and see how it can work for me, and yes, probably my husband too! So, thanks so much for the chance to enter!
    joannaonthelake@gmail.com

  • joan ferris

    I never heard of this product, but would like to try it.

  • gkran

    I would love to try this. I'm always lookinf for something new for my skin :)

  • lilyk

    Please enter me into the contest. Thanks!

  • http://www.threedifferentdirections.com/ Tammy

    Thanks for introducing me to this line and for the giveaway. I'll be checking it out.

  • kathypease

    i usually use plain ole soap and water but it is very drying :(

  • http://www.anutinanutshell.com/ blueviolet

    I only within the last year started washing my face with a facial cleanser. I used soap and water for way too long.

  • Jessica Briggs

    Give me a one step wipe I am lazy. If it is something that takes way to long I just wont do it at all.

  • Ardy22

    I use soap and water to remove anything on my face.

  • Carolyn Nedrow

    I do love the feel of a freshly washed face, but I don't take the time to attend to it enough!

  • Grumble Girl

    I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Fanatic or not, you're entered!

  • Grumble Girl

    You're on… we'll see!

  • Grumble Girl

    You just made it in time… you're the last entry. Good luck!

  • sillygirl727

    Bed time…two minutes to wash my face is easier than two weeks to get rid of the acne.

  • Ardy22

    I use soap and water to remove anything on my face.

  • Carolyn Nedrow

    I do love the feel of a freshly washed face, but I don't take the time to attend to it enough!

  • http://www.grumblegirl.com Grumble Girl

    I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Fanatic or not, you're entered!

  • http://www.grumblegirl.com Grumble Girl

    You're on… we'll see!

  • http://www.grumblegirl.com Grumble Girl

    You just made it in time… you're the last entry. Good luck!

  • sillygirl727

    Bed time…two minutes to wash my face is easier than two weeks to get rid of the acne.

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